If two or more characteristics hold applicable to your partner, you are probably in a relationship that does you no good. What step is the best to take differs from person to person. But one thing is certain: Something has to change. It is important that you talk to someone about your relationship. It could be friends, family members or teachers. If you want anonymous advice, you can always reach out to our counselling centres or contact our online consultation service.
The best way is certainly to break up and distance yourself from the person. This is not always easy. Sometimes you feel torn and you may not even notice that the negative feelings and events in the relationship have long since overtaken the positive ones.
If you want to end the relationship and are afraid of the reaction of your partner, you can also end it by SMS or message. This is the safest way in case of doubt. If you absolutely want a personal conversation, then it is best to meet in a public place. Take a companion with you who is waiting on the sidelines.
If you decide to stay with your partner, you should talk to him or her about the fact that something needs to change in your relationship. Be sure not to jeopardise your safety in any way. For instance, it is a smart move good if someone else knows when you are meeting with your partner and they can reach you during the meeting.